We cannot live all the versions of our lives that we dream up, only the one that we step into.
You don't stop being a real person just because you're at work, watching a football game, or sitting next to a stranger on a train. Anyone who asks you to suspend a part of yourself, to compartmentalize and turn your personal beliefs off, is asking you to forfeit your right to an authentic life.
We want to define ourselves, to make lists of the best parts of who we are, and we latch onto those parts with a kind of desperate longing for clarity and consistency. We don't like the idea of confronting contradictions about who we are.